Being single at 53 and looking for the perfect man in 2018 is so complicated!
After being catfished right out of the gate, my radar is on high alert. After I questioned Robert from the UK about using Marco Robinson’s pictures he split faster than an Olympic sprinter. Next there was David from New Providence, PA. When I insisted on facetiming to verify his identity he never responded. The next day, eHarmony notified me that they had removed him from the site. eHarmony also removed Mark from New York and AJ from Dallas just after we had exchanged introductory messages.
Yesterday I started a lovely conversation with Michael from Coral Springs. After his profile disappeared he explained that he cancelled his membership after connecting with me. He has no social media accounts since his attorney advised him to delete everything after being catfished. Right. He had several excuses for not being able to FaceTime. Another one bites the dust.
I tried another app where identifies are verified. Brad is obsessed with my foot photo on Instagram. Not a very stimulating conversation. Howard sent a funny gif and is now MIA. Others have not reached out even though we both “swiped right”. And to be clear, I am not on Tinder.
I’m taking a break from the on-line game for now. Since I’m paid up for several months, my profile remains on line but it has been updated with a warning, using a few choice words.
I’ve gotten lots of advice from friends. One suggested that because I had so many wonderful years with Rick and because my grown children do not need a new father that I do not need to be dating.
A couple of friends have suggested looking for someone the old fashioned way. Could I meet someone at church or at work? I could take a dance class or cooking class. Maybe there is someone in my building or someone who I see on the bus each day? I guess this is possible but it seems like such a long shot and I would have to remove my wedding ring.
Yesterday I had a lovely conversation with Danita at my nail salon. She shared her story of meeting her husband of one year. After a 15 year marriage she was single for 13 years. She prayed that she would meet a nice Christian man and she did. He noticed her on the train each morning and one day when her train buddies were not with her they struck up a conversation and immediately connected.
Danita isn’t the only one who has encouraged me to pray. My dear friend Susie reminds me every day that I need to pour my heart out to God. I did just that last night. Mostly I prayed for patience. A virtue I do not have. My prayers have helped bring clarity to what I want and what I might do moving forward.
Boy do I have ideas! Stay tuned and I’ll share what God has planned for me.
In one of the grief books I read the writer said that her friend told God that if he wanted her to meet someone knew he should probably send him right to her door……….and he did! I’m not thinking of dating at this point but don’t know if I could do online since that’s how Bill and I met (way back in the dark ages before it was popular). He was always so proud of it and told EVERYBODY.
Yeah, maybe the online thing is becoming a thing of the past.
Hi Julie. Tomorrow is my 1 year anniversary of meeting a nice guy in line. My criteria was that he would be nearby. I didn’t want to waste time with a pen pal. I wanted to meet someone and see if there was an attraction and would we want to hang out. We did and it’s been nice. Keep on getting out there. That’s my 2 cents. Nice post.