After a brief 8 week hiatus, I’m back to dating – or as one of Erik’s friends put it – back on the “prowl”. LOL
This time I tried different sites. Not sure why I was expecting different results this time but I do have some humorous stories to share. Laughter does help.
I can easily spot the frauds. When I asked one guy if he was to good to be true he quickly responded that he was not going to continue the conversation if I thought he was not real. He said he had verified his photos to avoid conversations like this!
Another guy claimed he could not Facetime because his iPhone was broken and he didn’t bring his computer on his business trip. Another claimed he moved to the US at age 4 but his accent was so heavy I could hardly understand him. And the one who used the name “Mason Jarle” didn’t get past hello.
A local guy seemed to be looking for a new mom for his young daughter. He wanted to exchange numbers right away and after I refused, he impatiently corresponded with me via the chat feature on OK Cupid. When I told him about Rick’s death he wanted to know where he was now. Next.
My favorite is John from Chicago. We talked about going out to listen to some Blues music but he was very busy with a work project. I said okay, we can talk on the phone. He got angry saying he does not connect that way! Then he said he didn’t understand why I checked him out on Linkedin- he wanted to know why I cared about his business contacts! I reported him to OKCupid and he created a new profile with a different picture but the very same profile. “I like wine and gin LOL” I’ve reported him three times and today he reappeared with an added message. “Please don’t report me just because I don’t answer your messages quickly enough” So I couldn’t help myself. I reported him again. He wasted my time so I’m going to waste his.
Another guy from Chicago responded “north side” when I asked what neighborhood he resided in. At least he was smart enough not to say east side. Then he asked me for a 50 dollar iTunes card. After a simple no he sent numerous messages begging me to help him before I could block him.
Stupidly, I thought “Luxy” would be a good site to try. It’s for the rich and beautiful and there is a process for users to verify identity and income. Funny how I mostly get messages from the ones that have skipped the verification process. Besides the frauds using male model pictures, I get messages from guys the age of my children, saying how they love older women. One came right out and asked if I would be his sugar mama.
So, it’s time to move on to Dating 301. I’m going to see where things go with Chip, a nice man I have been seeing for a couple of weeks. And I’m looking into a dating service where couples are matched based on mutual interests. It will require an investment but surely men who live in Turkey, using a model’s pictures are not going to pay the member fee when they can’t hide behind a computer.
Last night I had a great talk with one of Erik’s friends who told me about his mom, also a widow who is remarrying soon. He assured me that I will find love again and until then, any creeps that I meet will be taken care of by him and Erik and the guys. They have my back.
